A new mother’s motto
Motherhood “Teach me well, my little one...
To cherish the moments I have with you,
for all too soon
they will swiftly pass away.
Remind me to pause and touch
your soft, small cheek,
to marvel at the innocence in your eyes
and the perfect beauty of your face.
Show me how to treasure more the miracle
that life has given me in you,
to complain less about and praise more
the boundless things you're sure to do.
In the stillness of the night,
when you wake me from my slumber,
help me to realize how truly blessed I am
to be able to hold you next to my breast
to comfort and cradle you close to my heart.
And as the seasons pass away,
may I never look back in regret
at what may have been.
May I instead leave a legacy
for you to follow
as you in turn will one day welcome
a little one of your very own?"
Author: Linda E. Knight
The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. ~Rajneesh
They call them mamazala, “ou lady”, mommy, mama, we all have our own pretty little ways of calling the woman who raised us. Whether biologically or not. Mothers play an important role in our lives they nature and provide, they teach us things, discipline and listen even when the world has given up on you.
Mothers are the only people who will always back you up no matter what. They live to make us happy, and to have a batter life. They work their butts off just so we could have a comfortable lifestyle. They do everything in their power to protect us from harm. We all love our mothers, young and old, biological or not, blue green. They role they play is not determined by how they look, who they are or what they do. It is determined by their maternal instinct, all mothers have that.
It is unfortunate for those who did not grow up without a mother. There is always someone closer to playing that role, a sister, an aunt, or a grandmother. A woman can mother, fertile or not, all these orphaned kids, who have never known a mother’s love. Be it through sickness or whatever circumstances, be it accidents or diseases.
Any woman can be a mother, but that doesn’t mean they will be a great mother. When the maternal instincts hit you, there’s no way of going back.
Some mothers become mothers with no choice, rape situations. Some are just not ready be mothers, in all aspects of their lives, mentally physically, emotionally and financially. That’s what most teenage mothers are facing; they are being constantly scrutinized by the public. Social grants are being blamed, and society shuns upon them as if they did a crime. Motherhood is a beautiful gift to
mankind; it should appreciate, whether ready or not. He/ she is here and should be loved and appreciated. Criticizing these young ladies won’t make them better moms, nor will it end teenage pregnancy. Guiding them, supporting them and lending a helping hand will better our communities. This can also decrease the number of abortions, and deaths during or resulting in abortions.
Choosing to be a mother is a very big step in young ladies life, or a grown up woman life. Ready or not, the decision of keeping it is the beginning of a beautiful journey that every woman looks forward to all her life. Not all of them. It’s long been assumed that motherhood brings meaning to our lives. We guide, love, nurture and support our offspring and sometimes feel appreciated in return” all elements that can fuel our connectedness and satisfaction in the world. It’s easy to find meaningful moments as a mom, but it’s when things are tough that it seems we don’t know how to interpret what meaning is. What if the greatest reward and meaning of being a mother is the growth our children force us to do?
Being a parent is a very hard job no matter how you slice it, but to further the true blessing that children are is to work equally hard on being conscious and mindful of the growth our kids call forth in us. Perhaps your patience needs work or your critical side needs to be quieted or you need to learn compassion or you could stand to give up some perfectionism. Parenting in a kind and loving way can only come if we face these issues in ourselves. Maybe this is the true meaning behind being in relationship with these souls. ( Laura Fortgang )
Motherhood is priced
Of God, at price no man may dare
To lessen or misunderstand.
~Helen Hunt Jackson
